Self-Confidence Formula

I used to be surprised whenever I’d meet a beautiful and smart person who lacked self-confidence. But now, as I’ve gotten to work with a number of smart and talented young girls, I realize that many suffer from insecurity or inferiority complex, and it has nothing to do with their appearance, intelligence, or social status. Deep-seated feelings of unworthiness, regret over past mistakes, and fear of the future haunt so many bright young minds.

Why is this? What causes these feelings?

Contrary to misconception, insecurity is not innate. It is a disposition that is learned.

If, during a person’s early years, they were bullied, compared to others, told that they weren’t good enough or smart enough, or if they’ve been traumatized, rejected, or failed miserably without getting any support or consolation, then that person inevitably ends up developing a false idea of who they are.

Many of us have developed a false idea about our own identity. As we grow up, that false idea is reinforced by more false messages from the world, telling us who we should be in order to be accepted and loved.

But here’s the thing: no one but God truly knows who you are.

And according to Him, you are more magnificent than you or anyone else could ever know.

Here are just some of the many amazing things that God says about your identity:

  1. You’re a child of promise – Galatians 4:28 – What does this mean? The word “promise” in this sense means that we are heirs and receivers of God’s wonderful promises.
  2. You’re the salt of the earth and the light of the world – Matthew 5: 13-16 – To be described as salt that gives flavor, and a light in a world of darkness indicates that we are set apart. We are unique and extraordinary, and we have a grand purpose in this world.
  3. Through Jesus Christ you have wisdom, righteousness, sanctification and redemption – 1 Corinthians 1:30 – These are such wonderful gifts that we didn’t earn, but instead have been gifted with, through Jesus.


Most importantly, God tells us, “My grace is sufficient for you.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9

This is a powerful verse that speaks of God’s reason why you have every right to be confident.

In this verse, there are three things God is telling you:


  • You are perfect just the way you are: You were created out of His grace, and you are exactly what He wanted. Contrary to this world’s beliefs, your existence is not a random chance. Did you know that scientists have calculated the odds of you being born? They took into account all of the natural disasters and calamities that have happened on this earth, and they’ve discovered that the odds of you being born–at the time you were born, to the parents you belong to, with your DNA structure–is one in four hundred trillion. That’s right, you made it into existence! Before you were born, God knew that He wanted you, that you are worthy, and that this world could benefit from your existence. That makes you absolutely special.


  • You have all the resources you need: God did not create you and expect you to fend for yourself in this world. You have a partnership with Him, a special bond because He is your creator and Father in Heaven. So, He has equipped you with everything you need to get through this life. He gave you the people, circumstances, talents and trials necessary for you to grow into the person who would fulfill His grand purpose. If there’s anything more that you need, God will provide it. He sees the patterns of your behaviors and bestows grace as He sees fit. You can trust that God will supply all of your needs (Philippians 4:19), so insecurity is futile, and fear of the future is a waste of energy.


  • The plan God designed for you is perfect for who you are: God has a special mission assigned just for you, because He knows that only you can get this job done. Therefore, if you ever find yourself questioning the course of your life, remember that God has a plan. He is always in control. You may not have had certain dreams or ambitions come into fruition, but God’s plans for you are better than your own plans.


So, the next time you’re feeling insecure or unworthy, repeat these words: God’s grace is sufficient for me.

The next time you experience heartbreak and emptiness, tell yourself: God’s grace is sufficient for me.

When you feel like your finances are shot and you’re not going to make ends meet this month, say a silent prayer and remind yourself: God’s grace is sufficient for me.

For any other thoughts that cause you to feel inadequate or anxious, remind yourself: God’s grace is sufficient for me.


If you write these words in your heart and repeat them to yourself regularly, God’s grace will flood your life; and it will continue to flow until your self-confidence has grown like a strong oak tree that’s deeply rooted in God’s love.



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